50 Things Every Young Lady Should Know… Week 13

WEEK 13

“TALKING AND LISTENING TO OTHERS”

*****The book actually has ‘adults’ instead of ‘others’. ¬†However, I believe it fits for EVERYONE!

 

YOU DO:

Stop texting on your phone, typing on the computer, or watching television when others want to speak with you.

YOU DON’T:

Make a show of being irritated at the interruption, or act as if you are impatient to get back to what you were doing.

WHY:

There are distractions all around us, but the one in front of you (parent, sibling, teacher…etc) should not have to vie with a friend you saw an hour ago at school or with reruns of “Gilmore Girls” for 5 minutes of your time. ¬†It is hurtful to feel that you are not worthy of someone’s undivided attention.

YOU DO:

Politely ask them if their question can wait two more minutes for the outcome of the tie-breaking tennis match, or until you finish your train of though on the paper you’re writing.

YOU DON’T:

Put your hand up in front of them face, or wave them away like an annoying fly.

WHY:

Either of those things is guaranteed to provoke an angry response, which will not get you the minutes you’ve requested.

YOU DO:

Initiate conversations with others in your life.

YOU DON’T:

Spend all your time “conversing” on the computer with friends and strangers or secluded in your bedroom.

WHY:

As you’re getting older, so are your parents, grandparents and others in your life, and it’s important to make the most of the time we have with the people we love.

 

  • A lady makes eye contact and is engaged with the person she is conversing with.
  • A lady knows that asking people questions about themselves is the surest way to be considered a good conversationalist.
  • A lady keeps up with current events and popular culture, at least enough to learn the art of small talk.