Photography Tips #3

11. How to make sure that your lenses will not knock against each other while being put inside your bag.

Camera lenses do not come very cheap these days, which is why you need to take care of them properly. To make sure that they won’t destroy each other while being put inside the bag, you can use your hiking socks for them. At least that’s what I’ve been told. All you have to do is to cut the socks into its proper sizes. Just make sure that the socks are cleaned so that your lens would not get dirt on it.

Personally, I made my bag. I’m a craft person after all. I bought a sewing machine bag we had for black Friday. Bought the cushion fiber used to make chair covers, Velcro and some material. I cut the success sizes I needed the fiber to secure my items. Covered each piece with my selected material, add three Velcro, place in bag. It’s perfect for me with wheels and all.

12. Provide yourself some time to look through the photographs that you have taken a while ago.

Checking out your work after a few weeks that you have taken them, can provide you a new feeling for the photos. Aside from that, it would also give you the opportunity to see what you did right, and what you did wrong. More importantly, even if you did really well with them, you can always use them as your guide to make improvements.

This to me is vital. I even go as far as reaching out to other photographers to see what I could have done differently to make it better or make it pop. Networking and having a mentor is important to growth in the field. I understand not everyone likes to help because they are afraid. There are many who will and do help. As you grow, don’t be afraid to help others. There is enough work for everyone!

13. How to take pictures of fast moving or unpredictable subjects.

There are times when you want to capture an image or images of subjects that are erratic or moving fast. An example of this would be your pet dog playing around the garden. To make sure that you can capture a decent picture, simply make use of your camera’s continuous shooting mode. With that, it would take a number of shots in just a second, which would give you the chance to catch a good shot.

I love this tip. I do this regularly when shooting animals and sometimes water. Sometimes I’ll use it at sporting events too. Just find what works for you.

14. What you can do to become a wedding photographer.

If you want to become a wedding photographer, you want to start it right, so that you can get more clients. Staring out right in photography means gathering more information about it. However, you should also practice more; and, one of the best ways to do that is to volunteer as one of the photographers for your friend’s or relative’s wedding celebration.

I totally agree with this. This kinda goes for anything you want to branch out into. Don’t be afraid to offer your service in order to branch out. Also, don’t be afraid to ask for suggestions from others who have done or doing it well already. Always remember, be uniquely you.

15. How to make sure that you are buying the right kind of lens, especially if it expensive.

Lenses are available in different models these days. Some are big, while some are small. Keep in mind that such camera accessories are quite pricey. To make sure that you would be purchasing the right kind though, you can always rent certain types of lens for a few days first, so that you can check out their many functions and advantages, which should help you make the right purchase.

I personally haven’t rented any lenses yet, but I great many do. This is definitely something I plan to look into doing. I also caution and advise that you do some research. Ask yourself, what will you be photographing? Will it near or far? What type of conditions may I be in? Those your answers to those questions may alter your decision. What do I mean? For instance, if I want to get into food photography I won’t use the same lens that I use for landscape. Two different lenses are needed to optimize your photos.

Thanks for reading with me. How do you feel about these tips? What tips around these five topics would you advise?


My World

What’s going on in my world? How many of you that read my blog follow me elsewhere? Why do I ask? You are my followers, fans and supporters. I want to ensure you’re kept in the loop. So first, all the places I live on social media. All of my businesses have pages on Facebook. Along with my personal page.

Business Pages :

Dolphin Travel Express 🐬

Mickels Pixels Photography

Butterfly Dolphin

Books & Poetry (Dolphin Literary Works)

SBS Book CLub

Twitter: Mayoungsta

Instagram: All except Dolphin Lit have a page.

Website: (All exclusive. More on why later.

Blog: (In case you followed a link from somewhere else)

Now, you know where to find me most of the time. Let’s get to what’s going on.

Butterfly Dolphin:

This is my non-profit business. We focus on bringing awareness to various causes and illness as well as educate on various business etiquettes. Motto: “Knowledge is the key to boundless beauty.”

We are in the planning stages of preparing a few things. First we will be having our annual Breast cancer awareness fashion show on Oct. 21st. I’m very excited to be working with the models I have. We are currently accepting sponsors, vendors, door prizes, and swag bag participants. Ticket sales will start shortly both online and in person.

We are working on an event for early in the year. We are finalizing details for that. We are also planning a huge event for 2019.

Business seminars are also on the docket. We want to educate the community. Too many times people miss out on great opportunities because of simple things. The motto is each one reach one. You already know it! Volunteers, speakers, donations are welcome.

Mickels Pixels Photography:

I’ve been doing my photography for about five years now. I’m loving the progress I’m making with that. I started my photography business because I love taking pictures. I also enjoy making others feel confident in themselves. It’s what I do.  Motto: “Creating your memories to last a lifetime.”

I currently work with a lot of models, families, individuals and events. I’m in the processes of teaching out to travel photography. Why? No the question is why not?  I love to travel, so why not do travel photography?  It’s something I’ve been wanting to do for a minute anyway.  So that’s pretty much where I’m at with that.  Of course I have specials coming up for Oct through Dec.  So make sure you check regularly to see what they are.  Some are date specific.

Dolphin Literary Works:


Some of may not realize how much I really write.  In case you have missed it, I have 8 books that I’ve written and published.  I have that have not been published.  One of those I co-wrote with my literary husband.  Who is my Literary Husband?  None other than Nightwalker Love.  Motto: This motto is being revamped!  Possible new logo too!

My released books are:

  • A Piece of Me
  • Sexual Seduction
  • Road Of emotions
  • Seductive Pleasures
  • Lustful Passion
  • Captivated Moments
  • Tales Of a Trio
  • Best of Both Worlds

Current projects?  I’m currently working on another poetry book.  I am also venturing out to the novellas.  Working on branching out with one of my writing brands.  I have also stepped into the spoken word arena.  Still working hard at that.  As you read some of my newer pieces you may see a slight style change in the writing and some maybe a bit longer.  I will be part of an anthology that donations will go to a charity.  I’m excited about that.  It’s been a while since I’ve participated in an anthology. It is my goal to share more samples with you.  If you would like to be a beta reader, please contact me so I can add you to my beta reader group.  That is the ONLY place you will read my work ahead of everyone else.  So contact me to join.

Dolphin Travel Express:


Dolphin Travel Express is my newest venture!  I’m highly excited about this!!  Again I love to travel, so why not own a travel business?  So, yes, I’m a certified travel agent ready to take care of your travel needs.  Motto: “Your travel dreams can come true!”

I will be planning a few group trips in 2018 so be on the look out.  I’ll also be issuing some challenges as  well as doing some giveaways!  So make sure you follow my DTE pages.  I already have one giveaway posted!!!!!

So there you have it.  My business self in a nutshell.  I do have other ventures not listed here.  I also host or participate in a number of activities throughout the year.  Those will be posted on the respective pages as well. As we enter the fourth quarter of the year, I’m really excited about where I want 2018 to take me.  More information 2018 will come as we get closer to the end of the year.

SBS Book Club:


SBS stands for Sisters & Brothers with Soul.  Our book club is based in Columbus, GA.  We meet once a month to discuss various books.  We enjoy having authors visit us as well.  Motto: “Reading Beyond The Stars”

I am the Co-Owner/Founder and President of this book club.  Our VP is Veronica G. (also Co-Owner/Founder) and the treasurer is Simone M. (also Co-Owner/Founder).  The reason we started the book club was so we would have a relax and fun time discussing books that we read.  Over the years we have had a lot of authors visit us from all over the country.  It’s always a great time and you will never know what will happen at one of our meetings.

We typically stick with independent authors, but we do add in some mainstream author reading too.  We are currently about to work on our 2018 reading list.  So if you are an author and interested in visiting us please email me at ( with book and contact information.

I want to thank those that have been on this journey with me for a long time, as well as those that have just joined the journey.  There’s no need for me to name names, you know exactly who you are. My supporters, fans, family and friends, I thank you all for your continued support.  It’s now time to take it to the next level.

Who’s ready?

Red Lobster (Business Review)

Red Lobster (13th St, Columbus, GA)

I normally go here to this location. Almost always have good service. So when others recently complained, I brushed it off to the waiter/waitress having a bad day.

My mom and I went Sunday for the All you can eat shrimp. Or rather I did. It was not even that crowded when we got there so I didn’t see the problem. Let mere start of saying the food itself was delicious.

First it took forever just to get the drink order. When we did order our food, my mom asked for extra peppers. They only bought out four biscuits, which was okay because we don’t want them cold. Needless to say when my mom got got her food without the extra peppers, the waitress says that is extra. Boo, we know normal from extra. Five peppers on that order is below normal. Still we never got the peppers.

The biscuits were gone. We asked for more, which i NEVER had to do. Her reply? “They’re cooking.” 30 minutes later still no biscuits. Oh they’re still cooking.

Now, this isn’t my first time doing the All you can eat shrimp. So I know how this goes. Never have I had took WAIT to order my next one. As soon as the plate is bought out, the next one put in. She acted like that was such a problem. By then I was just ready to go. Was going to even order dessert, but didn’t feel the urge to waste my time.

My mom being the nice one still left her a tip. Me, my tip would be show better customer service. I was wanting the waitress the served the table behind us because she was engaging at all her tables. Yes I pay attention. The most interaction, other than ordering our food, was when I mentioned all the color pens she had. How sad. How disappointing.


“I Didn’t Think It Would Happen!”

“I didn’t think it would happen!” “I knew it was coming but thought it would not be this bad!”

That’s what I’ve been hearing all weekend long with Hurricane Irma. As a matter of fact, it’s the same thing I heard with Hurricane Harvey. Why do we do that?

Let’s rewind for a bit before I get into the here and now. We knew Harvey was going to make landfall how long before it did? Same thing with Irma. We knew without a shadow of a doubt that just about all of Florida would be devastated with Irma. It really didn’t matter if she shifted left or right, Florida was going to get the brunt of the storm. Granted had she shifted more right the GA coast and Carlonias would have gotten the eye of the storm. Same thing with Harvey. In both cases we KNEW they were coming, we knew the chances of it hitting central Georgia. We knew these things. I totally agree that sometimes the news and weather may exaggerate a few things, but your life is more important than anything. To be honest, if that’s what it takes to get you moving, then, great job!

I’m going to talk more about Irma than Harvey, only because it impacted where I am currently. Not to take away from those that were affected by Harvey. We knew almost two weeks ago where Irma was going to go. We were warned about how strong she is. We were warned this storm is worse than the previous ones like Hurricane Andrew in 1992. As the hurricane began to approach the islands, we were constantly reminded, prepare, get out, prepare, get out. Evacuation orders were given to just about the entire state of Florida and the coast of GA. We saw the devastation in the islands. It was eerily similar to Harvey. I’m sitting here watching the news, hearing people that have lived in Florida for 51 years say they have never left before, but this storm…..Irma, they were leaving. If that wasn’t a sign, I don’t know what is.

Columbus was warned we would have people from Florida evacuate to here. Personally, I thought that was a given considering our location. But they did the right thing by letting you know. Everyday for three days we were told hotels were pretty much booked solid. Still we are watching the news, watching the weather. We are still getting warnings. Hunker down, be prepared. STAY OFF THE STREETS. This is across the state. Those in Florida that didn’t leave were on their own after a certain point if something happened. So, what makes any of us different or better? What if it was just five times worse? All of these warnings, watches are put in place for YOUR safety. Our weather reporters were in the storm to bring you updates and YOU still didn’t head the warnings.

Now, I get that I may step on some toes with the next few things I’m about to say. However I feel it needs to be said. This past week has showed me a lot of things about a lot of people. I’ve seen some children who stepped up more than the adults. I’ve seen those that gave and gave to support those that needed it. They gave time, money, supplies, place to stay all because they wanted to help. There was a story of a gentleman who purchased the LAST generator in a store. A woman who has a disabled child broke down because she needed one for the child. The guy didn’t hesitate and GAVE it to her. No, not gave and make her pay for it. He gave her the one he already bought. Then you have those on the flip side that want to use the store to cater to their lazy needs and think someone should be ready to just give, give, and give.

Why do we wait until it is here, the natural disaster, to decide to take action? You should ALWAYS have a go bag ready. Especially during hurricane season or whatever natural disaster typically plagues you’re area. The only thing I had to add to my go bag was new batteries for my flashlight and a few snacks. Even if all you keep in it is undergarments, basic hygiene items and one basic change of clothes, you’re already head of the game. Earthquakes, you don’t get warnings. Tornadoes you really don’t get warnings either. Fires, sometimes, depends on how strong it is. Hurricanes? You almost always get a warning. So I’m just not understanding the concept of not being prepared. Is it that you’re just lazy? Or just don’t care? Do you think somebody is is obligated to care for you because you were not ready? I work in retail, I knew I needed a few food items. Do you think, after working all day I wanted to stand in line to pay for food? No, but I did it. Why? Because I’m a survivor. I did what had to be done. You are running around talking about you’re bored, there’s nothing to do, worrying about non essetional crap, but the day of the storm you’re out looking for food. What makes it worse is you want someone else to be in the weather to bring you pizza? Are you serious? I know you don’t care about the lives of others, just yourself. How can I say that? Simple, Your need wasn’t an emergency, just laziness. You weren’t going to work, had to get to the ER room, you just flat out ignored the Mayor simply because what? You don’t like her? So now, you’re risking an accident, and will EXPECT emergency crews to come to your rescue? Now you want someone to care about you? Same thing with Florida. You chose not to leave. You made that decision all on your own. Then get mad because responders are shut down until it’s safe for them.

We as people really need to do a better job at being ready, and being prepared. No this wasn’t an act of the government. The hurricanes is not a political statement. Hurricanes is a part of nature. Violent part of nature, but nature still. So, when we receive these warnings, we need to take heed and get prepared.

Photography Tips part 2

6. Always look for candid shots.

Looking for candid shots can actually provide you with more opportunities of taking the best shots. When you check out different photos, you will find that some of the best ones are those that are taken without the subjects looking at the camera. Capture scenes where people are doing their usual things, and you will see how natural it would become.

This is by far my favorite tip. Candid photos are my favorite. There’s nothing like getting that loving look between couples, or that cute giggle of a child. Those really do make some of the best photos. Even when I’m doing headshots, it’s almost always one candid fun picture included with that. The smile of the client when they see it is totally worth it. The one and only thing I have to warn about, know the venue rules if it’s not your personal studio. You don’t want to break a rule or offend your client. You most definitely don’t want to embarrass your client by taking pictures where they don’t want them or it’s personal. My best practice is to ask the client is there anything that can’t be done.

7. Make use of UV filters on the front of your camera lenses.

UV filters can provide your camera with the protection that it needs, in order to stay in top condition. Place the filters in front of your camera lenses, so that your lenses would be protected from scrapes or knocks. With that, you can be assured that your lenses last longer.

I found this to be useful by accident when I first started. Good lenses are expensive and we definitely want them to last as long as possible.

8. Buy different lenses and swap with a fellow photography enthusiast to save money.

Camera lenses are quite expensive these days; and, having a good number of them would offer you more when it comes to taking pictures. However, if you want to save on cost, then find a friend who has the same brand of camera that you have. Aside from that, have an agreement with him in purchasing different lenses, so that you can simply swap lenses whenever you need to.

Please make sure you put your agreement into writing. Never go based off word. While word is bond for some, others take it lightly. Hate for you to be out of money because someone doesn’t keep up their end of the bargain.

9. Use a remote if you still get blurred shots even with the use of a tripod.

Even with the use of a tripod, there is still a possibility that you would get blurred shots. This can be due to the way you press the shutter button, in taking the pictures. To get around that, all you actually need to have is a remote. Aside from that, you can also make use of your camera’s delay timer.

I’ve found this to be very useful. I can be a bit heavy handed sometimes and even with the tripod I tend to shake it a bit and get some blur. It also allows you to step back a little bit.

10. Make use of your mobile phone’s camera if you are trying to scope for beautiful landscape shots. So you won’t forget them.

Scoping for great landscape shots can become a fun activity, especially if you won’t keep on forgetting those that you want to visit later on. To prevent that from happening, you can always make use of your mobile phone’s camera for it. By doing that, you would be able to remember where you want to shoot your landscape scene next, by simply checking your phone.

If you want to take it a step further, you maybe doing a theme shoot or that specific location gives you ideas, why not use a note taker to write out those ideas of the picture you took. In some cases you can use screen write to write on a copy of the picture itself. These are very important for me because I almost always working on more than one project and need to take notes to remember what I wanted to do or try.

Girls Trip 2017 PCB

My friends and I went on our Girls Trip to Panama City Beach this past weekend. No we didn’t plan the trip based on the movie, our trip was planned early in the summer prior to the movie “Girls Trip” coming out. However, the movie added to the fun of our trip.

Our trip started on Friday morning and ended on Sunday evening. We had so much planned for that short period of time. We all wished it could have been longer. It was 7 of us that went on the trip. This trip gave me life. Now I think I’m ready to take on the last part of the year. For me, I was totally surprised I didn’t go to sleep on the drive down. Normally I’m out like a light within the first hour of the drive. Somehow I managed to stay awake and not have to be the one to take that first shot! The drive for us was about three and half hours. If you count the stop at Wal-mart, you can make it four!

We had a condo overlooking the beach. The condo was very affordable and sleeps 8 pretty comfortably. Of course there were a few things that wasn’t up to par with the condo, but that will be saved for the condo review itself. I loved the condo overlooking the beach and ocean front. Any one that knows me, know I hate heat. So yes, I was going to a beach town, but wasn’t actually planning on going to the beach. Now, had I thought about it, I prob should have made plans to go down as the sun was rising before it got hot just for the beach experience and some up close photos. I spent my time on the balcony catching up on some reading and going inside to cool off when it got too hot. The girls LOVED being down at the beach.

I loved going to Pier Park. Wasn’t sure how my knee was going to handle it. For the post part it did pretty good. Reviews for specific shops and restaurants will come later. I got totally giddy when I saw the German restaurant and walked by the Tervis shop. Found some awesome shops that I didn’t even know existed. Also while on the strip we ran into two different groups of ladies on “Girls Trips” too. It was really fun to meet them. One group we got pictures with. Of course we ran into an issue or two, but that didn’t stop us from having a great time and a great experience. We did the Dolphin Boat tour. It was okay. The dolphins didn’t want to cooperate with us. But it was still a pretty good ride.

I really enjoyed this Girls Trip. It was a much needed trip. To spend time with friends that have been there with you for years is amazing. Most of us have been friends for at least fifteen years now. Throughout those years we’ve had a few ups and downs, but the one thing that has always held true was our friendship and our love for each other. This trip just enhanced that. We may not see each other everyday, may not speak everyday, and in some cases may only see/speak maybe once a month. Still, when we get together, it’s like having a group of sisters you’ve never had. We are able to laugh about things that use to make us angry. To me, it’s pretty funny when we discuss what we use to think, how we use feel about each other. Now, we are a group of amazing friends. The things you learn about each other on a trip is too funny sometimes. I won’t disclose names because they are my friends. I love our different personalities. It’s what makes us click and stick together. We have a few mother type figures. It’s not consistent, but during certain specific situations. We have a few fashion divas. Ya’ll know that’s so not me. LOL We had one that have stuff EVERYWHERE. Now I really can’t talk, that’s me at home, but for some reason, not when I’m out. One of our friends was pretty calmer but just as fun. I know she was tickled with us. So of course we have our Dina! She didn’t think she was Dina, but everyone agrees she is Dina. I was told I was more like Sasha. Of course we have our Ryan and Lisa too. Most of us area nice mixture of the characters from the movie.

Overall, it was a fantastic trip. So glad I was able to go and spend time with them. It was so worth it. Yes, worth the time, the money, the drive, the knee/ankle pain. So so so worth it. When I think of my friends I think of how we are able to spend time together and time apart and still have an awesome bond. Most of the time we don’t mind sharing our friends, but we know who our crew is and where our love will always be. Thanks to my friends for an amazing trip.

Girls Trip 2018 and 2019 are already in the process of planning. I’m so excited already!!!!!!!

Poetry & Life

Those that know me know I love poetry. Yes, I write it, but I also love reading and hearing other poets spit. Me, I’m a newbie with in the spoken word arena. I’m still learning my flow. But that’s neither here nor there.

Since I’ve been back in Georgia, I’ve heard and met some amazing poets that come from all over the country. I’ve met some of the best. Some that make their living off their spoken word. To see that growth and that amazing talent is just awe inspiring. I’ve been going through my CDs from the poets, listening, learning, enjoying their pieces. To hear such great talent and not take away something from them would be pure sin. Or just laziness. Neither I am known for. Tonight I want to talk about one specific poet from South Carolina name Ray Manley.

His CD deals with mostly relationships. He has an erotic flare that will make a novice blush. He will bring out the inner freak in you too. Don’t sleep on him. I know the erotic pieces is what most of the people will take away from the CD, but it goes much deeper than that. Let’s talk about that, shall we.

Yes, I’m currently single. No, I don’t really sweat it, don’t too much worry about it. Every now and then I’ll have a moment where I wish I wasn’t. Those are few and far in between. When I listened to Ray’s CD the second go round, I realized why I really loved his CD. Why I loved ALL his pieces. Yes, all. How often does that happen? I know you want to know what was on the CD, what his poems are about. I’m getting there.

So, I’ve always said I had some old fashion ways about myself. My standards are my standards and I won’t lower them to meet someone else’s because they feel intimidated. Yes, I’ve been told I should. True enough, I’m sure the books I’ve read may have tainted my wants a bit, but not much. Before you ask, yes I do compromise where I see that I’m not compromising me. Yes, I prefer tall guys, six feet plus. Yes, I will date and have dated some shorter. I prefer pepperoni pizza. Sure, I’ll get a meat lovers. No, I’m not a morning person. Sure, we can take the early morning flight, or leave on a road trip early, or even go have breakfast (every now and then on the breakfast. LOL) Those type of things I can comprise on because it doesn’t lower my standards. No, I don’t smoke. No, I won’t date a smoker. Yes, I have a job, a car, and my own place. Yes, you need a job, preferably some type of transportation (unless you medically can’t drive) and somewhere to live. I understand if you have roommate, or stay with a parent. But my question is why are you staying with that parent? Is it because you’re helping foot the bills, are they sick or are you just being lazy? Those type of things I don’t compromise on. I must say, the older I get the higher the standards go. Ya’ll know the saying: “To know better is to do better.”

Now back to Mr. Manley here. His poetry to me speaks so much truth like so many other poets. His stuff breaks down the relationships in a way you may have never heard before. Even the erotic pieces tell the TRUTH. Sure, I know I’m spoiled, but I’m not bratty. I know what I want, I know what I like, and I know how I DESERVE to be treated. Every woman, regardless of race should be treated like a Queen. Every man, regardless of race should be treated like a King. While I say that, are YOU doing your part? Ray talks about the importance of foreplay, the importance of how to treat your woman. He discusses the push and pull in relationships. We all know it’s not always Sunny in California. Relationships go though what I call phases. Me, I truly believe, if you enter into a relationship, a marriage for the right reasons, you will be able to push through those phases. Before you start, yes, I’ve been married. Yes, I did for all the WRONG reasons. Even then I knew it. Now, at 40, I know better. I refuse to settle.

Today I posted on my facebook page a line from one of his pieces. He said “She should not have the fortitude to tell you what you can and can’t do after you’ve weakened her will.” That line there did something, turned on a switch or something. As a man, my man, I shouldn’t have the desire to tell you no. I should be ready to please you because you took care of me. Because as the head of the house, you handled your business. Ladies, that does not mean you just take and don’t give. You have to help him, allow him to do his part. Don’t be in such a rush to pitch a fit every time you don’t get what you want. (Easier said than done, I know.) As I listened to the entire CD the second time around I listened to the words, listened to how they were spoken, understood the meaning. Did I mention, read between the lines? Yes, it’s true, I don’t know Ray Manley on a personal level, don’t know personally if this is the stuff he really does. However, being a poet, knowing poets on a personal level, some of that was him if not all. I’m not putting him on a pedestal, because no one deserves that but God. Still, there’s something to be said about a man being a man. A strong man. A man that protects and provides for his. There’s nothing sexier than seeing a strong man handle his business, both inside and outside the bedroom.

I want to talk to my women for a moment. Women………As a woman, we need to raise our standards. We need to stop allowing lazy men to make your life harder than it needs to be. Demand they do better. BUT make sure you’re doing better too. When I see customers in the store shopping, or at Starbucks where I’m writing, I’m amazed at the level of disrespect that you allow to happen. Is being with someone really that important for them to disrespect you, to belittle you and to do it public? Is it really that important to have companionship that it’s like you’re supporting another child? Okay, your married, he’s sick, he’s disabled. I get that. Still does that give him the right to treat you any less than what you deserve? Yes, we have to work in most cases to help cover expenses. Yes, companies lay off, but is he sitting at home playing video games or out drinking with his buddies spending your money while you’re struggling to pay the bills? I don’t don’t care how cliche’ this sounds, but if I’m going to do bad, I’ll do that by myself. I don’t need help in that. I refuse to preach, but we were created to be his helper, not another mother. You want better? You want more, GET MORE. DO BETTER. Yes, it may be hard work, but it can be done. I’m done. 🙂

Let me say this. I think both men and women alike should get his CD. My opinion. Fellas, you may want to step your game up if you’re not top notch before you let your woman listen to it. Trust me, she’ll expect you to put in some work. She’ll be waiting for you to seduce her without a touch.

Thank you Ray Manley for those awesome pieces of work. Keep up the good work. You rock.


“Confidence” by Sharice Rogers


By Sharice Rogers


Confidence – How to Build Yours


Confidence can be defined as a feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of their own abilities or qualities. As we all are created with certain talents and gifts. Talents and gifts are our birth right which can be classified as such i.e., intellectual, physical, artistic, and so on. One person can have multiple gifts and talents, yet it depends on what you gain satisfaction from, that will usually dictate which talent or gift (passion) is developed and shared with others. When you spend effortless time perfecting a craft, that’s where your passion lies. Nurturing your passion to it’s potential of being appreciated by the public is the place where confidence is born. Confidence is that place where purpose meets creative potential. Being able to experience public appreciation from others for creating something from your very own vision warrants a sense of fulfillment that’s exhilaratin. Being able to share with the world your exclusiveness and have people embrace your gift can do no more than breed belief in oneself.

To experience conviction in your craft you must be willing to spend time finding out what drives you intrinsically; what satisfies you when you’re alone and there’s no one applauding you. What speaks to your heart? What reflects your authentic self. It’s when you’ve reached that place of “knowing” that your confidence awakens. Once you’ve nurtured and produced your original product that’s driven from within that internal authentic place you are now taking that ride of assurance and balance that some never get to experience. Some never get to experience such pleasure because they exploit their gift by depending on acceptance and approval from temporary satisfaction; such as applause, acceptance, and first-class treatments. Not to say that any of these things are pointless because they are not, but they should not be your mission because they are all external factors of which you have no control. You will rarely feel anxious or pressured to produce your product when you’re purpose driven. However, there will be times that you’ll have those feelings but not too often if you’re producing from the position of determination.

Confidence should come from a purpose driven place within oneself or else it can be short lived because purpose should come from that gratifying place of doing what you love. Being intrinsically driven means that you have control of what you present to the world because you’re connected to the process. When you take control of your craft and don’t allow applause, material, and status to be your driving force, but allow those external things to encourage you to do more. Receiving acknowledgements versus being purpose driven have separate rewards.

Let’s say for example you’re on a mission to get in shape because you just experienced a bad relationship breakup and your self-esteem is wavering. You achieve your desired goal and you’re feeling good because you’ve now accomplished the “how you like me now” factor of rubbing your new figure in your ex mates face. Once you have achieved this external gratification of seeing their disappointment what will be your inspiration to maintain this accomplishment? Will you no longer have the drive to keep that figure up or will you continue in the lifestyle that supported the deed? The more you exercise self-love without placing so much weight on external validation your confidence will grow, because you placed more accountability on self-growth as opposed to outside acknowledgement; ultimately, you’re empowering yourself at the end of the day.

There are many factors that can attach itself to our identities that can cause self-doubt, procrastination, and fear. Just consider the media for one; so much of who we are can be compared to the lifestyles of the rich and famous because the portrayal is that these individuals have accomplished “the American dream”. Is there only one facet of the “American dream” or can and should we be allowed to manifest our own dreams and aspirations. I raise this question from the place of authenticating oneself. Also, I raise this question to highlight the potential of compromising your purpose should you neglect spending time on finding out what your vision of happiness looks like. Be willing to dream and envision what will sustain your joy during your journey to success. Your destination should look different from someone else’s to some degree. Aspiring to achieve your greatness can be achieved by following your idol, but there should be some variances that reflects your individualism. Confidence grows from the place of identifying with who you are, and what you are, and why you are in existence.

There are parts of everyone that should not be compromised and we all should practice responsibility of setting boundaries around maintaining ourselves in the face of opposing factors that attempt to poke at our core values. Our foundation of truth depends on protecting our worth, therefore we should be mindful of the people, places and things that we choose to entertain. That old saying is that “too much of anything isn’t good for you”, there are some guilty pleasures we all entertain from time to time, I’d say just be aware of balancing those pleasures out with your other stuff so that you don’t start idolizing factors that could cause you to compromise the standards that your substance depends on for stability. You’ll know when you’ve over indulged because you should eventually be jolted with guilt to some degree. Another part of learning oneself is listening to your gut when it gives you that shot of angst out of nowhere, that’s the universe speaking to you that something is off; it becomes your responsibility to keep still and quiet and spend some time getting back on track with living from your core.

Life is a gift when we treat as such. We come to this world packaged and wrapped with a bow and as we untie our bow a blooming should take place. The flowers will bloom, and our smiles will burst with laughter as we share our uniqueness one with another. Our worlds become colorful and desired to be experienced. Let’s be willing to experience our better selves so that we all get to indulge in the unveiling process of infinite growth which breeds confidence.


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Photography Tips Series 1

I want share a series of photography tips. I’m not a know it all, as I’m still learning from some awesome photographers. I’m always learning and always welcome new information. These are the first five of many tips!

1. Gather as much photography information as you can. You can never know too much. If you need a cheat sheet, buy one. Or better yet make catered to your needs!

To begin with your career in photography at the right path, you need to gather more information about it first. Gathering information would provide you guidance on the right steps that you need to take. In other words, the key is research, research and more research. You’ll be doing research even after you’ve started your business. Researching can be done through the internet, talking to professional photographers, as well as reading some books about the subject.

Me personally, I taken a course or two. I also have a few mentors. They are so awesome. Did you know you can learn from people starting out just like you too? How? It’s simple really. Remember you’re different. You learn at different stages, you remember things differently. It stands to reason that even though we maybe technically on the same beginner level, they understand something way more quickly than you, and vice versa. You may also have different specialities where you can help someone else. Above all, keep yourself willing and ready to be taught and to teach.

2. Purchase the digital camera that you want. Even if you are still at the starting point of your photography career, it is best to purchase the type of digital camera that you really want. You should purchase something that can provide you with the kind of pictures that you want. By using a camera that provides quality photos, you would become more motivated in taking more pictures with it, even if you are still trying to learn about it.

For me personally I wish I had done that. While the camera I had was great at taking pictures, it was a point and shoot. Knew it wasn’t what I truly wanted, but to took care of my basic need to train and teach myself. Don’t get me wrong, it was one of the point and shoots I’ve worked with and produced some excellent pictures. Still, I believe had I waited a tad bit longer I could have gotten the one I eventually did get, or one very similar. At any rate, I do still have that one. Makes for a great back up and a light load for specific outings. So get the one you really want.

A photographer whose work I’ve grown to live and admire posted about this very topic. When he said that I reflected back on what I did. Man, if only I knew then what I know now.

3. Invest in a tripod. Having a tripod can provide you with lots of benefits, as far as taking pictures is concerned. It is one of the things that you need to invest on, in order to have quality landscape shots. Aside from that, it would also help you in taking glorious pictures of sunset or sunrise. A tripod comes in handy many times. Plus it’s truly needed for those times you need that long exposure.

I know my hands can get shaky as it is, but you want me to stand still so there’s no blur. Yea, no, hats not happening. When you’re purchasing a tripod it’s important to get a durable lightweight one. If you’re anything like I was staring out, you maybe tempted to take your tripod everywhere. Your speciality may require. My recommendation is to never go without having a good tripod.

4. Time your shots well. Timing your shots well is one of the keys in taking beautiful pictures. This is actually one of the reasons why some professional photographers would suggest beginners in the field, to make use of filmed cameras at the start. This is because, using such types of cameras can help a person develop a good habit in timing and choosing his shots, due to the fact that the film limits it.

This I agree with on so many levels. While I’m still working on this, I completely understand the value and importance of using a film camera to time your slots. I’ve never had a SLR film camera, but I have taken numerous pictures with film cameras and Polaroid cameras. I’m not into wasting film, so I was very cautious in taking my pictures. Timing was everything. Great timing is the difference between an okay picture and an great picture!

5. Don’t hesitate to try new angles. There is always a tendency for a beginner to stick with taking pictures of their subject head on. If you are doing that, you may be preventing yourself in finding the best angles. Thus, it is a good idea to try out different angles first. Try to taking the picture from the top or from below. By doing that, you can have different perspectives of the scene.

I’ve seen photographers get into some wired positions to get that perfect shot. I love angles that are unique for specific images. I’m always trying different ones, using buildings, trees and other things to help with different angles and viewpoints. Dare to be different.

I hope these five tips help you out. I’ll be back to share more soon!!!