Knee Replacement Journey Part 2

Here I am again. I’m now three weeks post surgery. To me, I’m surprised at the progress I’ve made. However, my doctors and therapist are pleased but not surprised.

I’m now able to get in my bed and the car without assistance. That’s in and out. I can also lift my leg while standing, sitting, and laying. My knee is bending at 106° angle! My doctor wants it 120°.  So I guess I’m getting there.  I always says small progress is still progress.  I’m still doing my physical therapy twice a week and doing my home exercises.

Now about some other things.  I don’t know if any of this is related to the surgery and the anesthetics, but I can feel my body going through some changes.  What kind of changes?  My sleeping is way off course.  Most nights I’m getting 2 hours at a time.  You talking about someone being way off balance.  I also can’t focus for long periods of time.  Normally my thoughts are going fifty miles per hour.  Now, not so much.  I’m told it will get better.  I hope so because I have things to do.  So, for now, I’m doing a lot of resting and doing some binge watching.  I do small projects here and there.  Doing some training and meditation to keep me going.

I’m so thankful for my mom.  She is giving so much of herself right now to help me get well.  For that, no amount of thankfulness will ever show how much I appreciate her and what she does.

People seem to always be amazed when they see me and my progress.  I’m sitting here like what?  I know everyone heals differently. I just be thinking my progress is so slow.  Then I hear stories of people that are at their 12 weeks and no where near where I am now and I’m surprised!  Before I had the surgery, I did so much research to ensure I was ready and prepared to do the work.  I know the pain would be there, especially that first week or so.  I also knew that it was going to take some serious drive to push through the pain.  I knew I’d be walking the day of surgery, knew I’d have to go to therapy the day after I got out the hospital.  I knew all this, was ready for it.  Maybe I’m progressing because I want it and I already knew what to expect, or maybe because I have a great doctor that explained everything in great detail.  When I look at things, it doesn’t matter how big or small the surgery I’m about to undergo, I take the time to research.  I may not know EVERYTHING the doctor knows but, I feel pretty good about what is about to happen.

So this is where I am right now.  I’m three weeks and one day post surgery.  The one thing that tickles me is how people want to see my scar.  They want to compare to theirs or a close family member.  I don’t have a problem showing them.  I know at first I was just scared to look at my own scar, but now, I’m good with looking at it.  It’s healing pretty well.

Have you or someone you know had a total knee replacement surgery?  If so, can you share how you were at three weeks?


Total Knee Replacement Journey

What is a total knee replacement: Total knee replacement, or total knee arthroplasty, is a surgical procedure in which parts of the knee joint are replaced with artificial parts (prostheses). A normal knee functions as a hinge joint between the upper leg bone (femur) and the lower leg bones (tibia and fibula).

Total knee replacement is a common procedure. Most people hear good and bad things about it. I know I did. As a matter of fact I still am. Over the next few months I’m going to take you on this journey with me.

My why:

Last year I had a knee scope where they repaired a torn ligament. At that time they saw the arthritis, but it wasn’t as bad. Cleaning the torn ligament was great, kept my knee from buckling. He told me that EVENTUALLY I’d need the total knee replacement. He didn’t expect me back a year and some change later. I was at the point that if I worked all day I could barely make it to my car before my knee gave out.

So I started with prayer and a discussion with my family and doctor. My doctor laid out all my options, the good and bad. Some options may work temporarily, others didn’t have enough research to give a good enough percentage. So after all that I decided to go with the total knee replacement.

I worked a month up until my surgery to help my team out. That was the longest month of pain. A week before your surgery you have to stop taking anything that works like a blood thinner like pain pills. The only thing I was pretty much able to take was tlynol. That does nothing. However, I made it.

The morning of surgery was farley pleasant. I already knew I’d stay at least one night. Some have to stay longer, do not be surprised. I did a lot of research leading to this day. I was nervous, but ready. I was really glad I was the first surgery if the day.

Now here’s where it gets interesting to me. Now they did say I would have the spinal anaesthesia and something “where I wouldn’t remember what’s going on.” I was out like a light until the last few minutes. Yes y’all, I woke up!!! I couldn’t feel anything below my waist, couldn’t see anything beyond the sheet hanging up separating me, BUT I knee they were there. The anesthesiologist asked if I wanted to go back to sleep. I nodded my head yes but wanted to scream “duh of course”. Next thing I know I was in recovery room, then I as being wheeled to my room. Yes, my own private room.

As they got me situated I tried to regain clarity. For just having surgery I was very awake. I understood everything the nurses and Dr’s said. I was feed a liquid diet, then they served real food for lunch and dinner. Surprisingly they were farley decent.

Just had surgery right? In my room by lunch time, right? I was up walking before dinner!!!!!! Yes, physical therapy started the same day. Oh it hurt to get up, but once I was up I was good. Needless to say I limited my restroom breaks as much as possible.

Day after my surgery:

The day after consisted of me working hard so I can go home. Certain progress has to be made before your Dr allows you to go home. No problems on my end that I saw. The hardest part of the transition was getting in and out of the car. That ment bending my knee! My mom may have something else to say. The hardest part at home was getting out of my bed. That took anywhere from ten to fifteen minutes.

Almost 2 weeks later:

Now, I’m at the stage where I’m getting around better. Not great, but better. Not really taking any pain pills. While I can’t lift that leg just yet, the leg is getting stronger. I’m doing things I couldn’t do on day one. So I’m making progress. My therapists say I’m improving. Just have to make sure I continue doing my home exercises.

That’s where I am right now. I’m taking it one day at a time. I’ll be back shortly with more progress.

Things To Let Go Of Right Now

In life we tend to hold on to things that we need to let go of. Why do we do that? Sometimes it brings us comfort, or gives us strength or even hope. Did you know that some of those things are what hinders us from progressing to the level we need to. I know with me I’m consistently working on letting things go. Here are a few things we need to let go of in order to move forward:

  • Worrying about what has happened in the past – The past is just that, the past. The good and bad. We can’t change it, but can learn from it as long as we don’t allow it to swallow us up.
  • The need to be in control of everything – We like things to go a certain way, but many things are out of our control. Once we realize those things we can’t control, things get better.
  • The idea of a perfect life – Everyone is imperfect, therefore a perfect life will be non existent.
  • Fear of the unknown -This is easier said than done. Still, it does bring the stress level down.
  • Unhealthy relationships – This stress is just not worth it at all. If it is not bringing positivity into your line, let it go.
  • Worrying about things you can’t change – There are so many things we can’t change. We must focus on what we can change.
  • Clothing you haven’t worn in over a year – There are many reasons people keep clothes they haven’t worn. If you haven’t worn out in a year, what truly are the chances you’ll wear it? Let it go.
  • Comparing yourself to other people – On some level I understand doing this. Maybe you’re working with a mentor or trainer and there is SOME comparison. However, we don’t want to get in the mindset of “being like the Jones'”.
  • Your inscecurities -We all have some sort of insecurity. How we push past that defines who we are. Don’t allow that insecurity to determine your future.
  • Fear of failure – This one is huge for me personally. I know I’m not perfect and will not be perfect in everything I do. Therefore failure will sometimes happen. Understanding that has helped me not to fall in a funk.
  • Procrastining on important things – The first step is finding out why you procrastinate. Once you know why, you can begin to let it go. For example, I typically procrastinate when I feel overwhelmed. Solution? Planning and scheduling keeps me from being overwhelmed, thus I don’t procrastinate as much.
  • Overspending – Budgeting and planning will typically take care of this.
  • Worrying what others think of you – Why hold on to that stress? Yes we care about our brands and products. Those random thoughts of pettiness, let it go.
  • Excuses – Excuses can be a handicap. If you missed up, or forgot something, admit it, apologize and move on.
  • Your comfort zone – This can be hard, but once you do, you’ll olive yourself more for it. Step outside the box.
  • Grudges – Keeping grudges can affect your health. Most of the time the person we have grudge against isn’t even worth it.
  • Lazy habits that are holding you back -Nothing else needs to be said.
  • Gossip – Is it worth it? What could you be doing instead?
  • Any possessions that don’t bring you joy – Let it go!
  • Unrealistic expectations – Things applies to people and your goals!
  • Trying to make everyone happy – One word…IMPOSSIBLE
  • Jealousy – The energy you use on jealously and be used for something more productive.
  • Anyone or anything that doesn’t make you happy –

What are some things you are working on letting go of?

4th Quarter Goals

4th quarter is just about upon us. Let’s wrap it up the year with a bang so we can move into 2019 with an even bigger bang. One way to do this is by planning now for the next and final quarter of the year.

We want to ensure what your goals for this last quarter will benefit you in the best way so you can become better than yesterday. After all, if we are not better than we were the day before, what’s the point?

There are a few things you must remember when planning your goals. You want to make SMART goals! How many have you make SMART goals? Or do you just make random goals? Here is how you make SMART goals:

  • S – Specific (or Significant)
  • M – Measurable (or Meaningful)
  • A – Attainable (or Action-Oriented)
  • R – Relevant (or Rewarding)
  • T – Time bound (or Trackable)

Additional Tips:

  • Be precise
  • Set priorities
  • Write goals down

Here are some of my 4th quarter goals (pending the healing from my knee surgery):

  • Get back out in the community
  • Publish a poetry book
  • Plan my vision for 2019
  • Host a vision board party
  • Find an accountability partner or two
  • Partner up with other entrepuners
  • Complete a few projects that are already in the works
  • Hard push for my reading goal (especially while I’m recovering)
  • Increase my social media presence and engagement
  • Add some much needed ‘me time’ (need it during the holiday season)
  • Start on my personal goals early
  • Focus Focus Focus Focus

What are some of the fourth quarter goals? What can I do to help? Can we collaborate on any of those?

Better Version Of Yourself

We all like to be the better version of ourselves. Or at least most of us do, I hope. Everyday should be an improvement over the day before. Each day we should be getting better and always improving on the better version of ourselves. Self-improvement is always the the key. Here are a few ways I use to continue to improve myself. Some ways are easier than others, but I try to work on something daily.


  • Honest self-reflection – It’s important to be honest with yourself about who you are, where you are right now and where you want to go. Anything less, you’re doing yourself a disservice.
  • Maximize your strength – Those strengths that you have should be utilized to help create the better version of yourself.
  • Work through your weaknesses – We all have weaknesses. Identify them and begin working on them. No, don’t tackle them all at once.
  • Commit to long term therapy – Commit to taking the time you need to improve.
  • Practice mediation – Remember the simple and most important things.
  • Give back to others – Be kind and generous. Giving back to others don’t have to be huge and/or publicized.
  • Get out of your comfort zone – One small step out of your comfort zone will help you step further out. You never know what you’ll like until you do it.
  • Imagine who you want to be. What does that look like? – You should be able to visualize the best version of yourself.
  • Develop a thick skin – This takes work, but will benefit you as you continue grow.
  • Figure out what you need to change to get there – Don’t wait, start making those changes today.
  • Adopt good habits – Once you start getting rid of bad habits you need to fill that space with good habits.
  • Break down the ideal you into small managable steps
  • Create a plan and list of goals – 1/2/3/5/8/10 years – Look at it regularly to keep you focused
  • Do the small steps everyday – Yes everyday
  • Learn new skills – This always helps you grow and get better.
  • Create bigger steps – As you start completing the small steps, move on to the bigger steps.
  • Be happy
  • Praise yourself – You may not be where you want to be, but progress is progress, celebrate it.

What have you done to create the better version of yourself?

Expressing My Creativity

There’s one thing that I’ve learned about myself over the years.  Whats that?  That if I don’t allow myself to let creativity flow then I get very grumpy.  I won’t say depressed, but I do notice a change in myself.  For me, I have many outlets for my creative juices.

Here are a few ways  I express my creativity:

  • Photography – This always make the list.  There are so many ways to be creative with photography.  It’s fun to learn new techniques and work with different people.  Being an introvert it helps me to connect with people when I take their photos.  (Now who’s ready for a photo shoot?  Let’s be creative!)
  • Writing – I’ve been writing since 1996.  My writing partner/husband got me started with poetry.  Now I do poetry, very short stories (much to the dismay of my book club!), and blogs (such as this one).  All of these allow me to say the things I may not always say in person.  It also allows me to have fun while being very creative.
  • Crafts – This is very broad, as this list by it self can get really long!!! I love many forms of crafting.  I’ve tried some that I absolutely love.  Others, not so much, but would try it again.  Then there are others I won’t ever do again!
  • Baking – It’s been a while, but I do enjoy baking a sweet dish.  90% of the time I try to make them from scratch.

How do you express your creativity?

Communication Skills

Definition of COMMUNICATION:

“The imparting or exchanging of information or news.

We communicate everyday and in many forms. Some of those forms include:

  • Verbal (You listen to a person to understand their meaning)
  • Non-Verbal (Observe a person and determine their meaning)
  • Written (Read their meaning)

When we communicate we want to make sure our message is heard and coming across the right way.  When they don’t things can go very wrong.  To help us along the way I have some communication tips to help with improving our communication skills.

According to the 7 Cs, communication needs to be:

  1. Clear -When writing or speaking to someone, be clear about your goal or message. What is your purpose in communicating with this person? If you’re not sure, then your audience won’t be either.
    To be clear, try to minimize the number of ideas in each sentence. Make sure that it’s easy for your reader to understand your meaning. People shouldn’t have to “read between the lines” and make assumptions on their own to understand what you’re trying to say.
  • Concise -When you’re concise in your communication, you stick to the point and keep it brief. Your audience doesn’t want to read six sentences when you could communicate your message in three. Ask yourself:
    • Are there any unnecessary sentences?
    • Have you repeated the point several times, in different ways?

    Are there any adjectives or “filler words” that you can delete? You can often eliminate words like “for instance,” “you see,” “definitely,” “kind of,” “literally,” “basically,” or “I mean.”

  • Concrete – When your message is concrete, your audience has a clear picture of what you’re telling them. There are details (but not too many!) and vivid facts, and there’s laser-like focus. Your message is solid.
  • Correct -When your communication is correct, your audience will be able to understand it. And correct communication is also error-free communication. Make sure your message is correct by asking yourself the following questions:
    • Do the technical terms you use fit your audience’s level of education or knowledge?
    • Have you checked your writing for grammatical errors? (Remember, spell checkers won’t catch everything).
    • Are all names and titles spelled correctly?
  • Coherent – When your communication is coherent, it’s logical. All points are connected and relevant to the main topic, and the tone and flow of the text is consistent.
  • Complete -In a complete message, the audience has everything they need to be informed and, if applicable, take action.
    • Does your message include a “call to action,” so that your audience clearly knows what you want them to do?
    • Have you included all relevant information – contact names, dates, times, locations, and so on?
  • Courteous – Courteous communication is friendly, open and honest. There are no hidden insults or passive-aggressive tones. You keep your reader’s viewpoint in mind, and you’re empathetic to their needs.

Do you have any additional tips on proper communication?

Mobile/Cell Phone Habits

Nowadays most people have a cell phone of some sort.  Even young children are very adept in using the basics of a cell phone.  However, there are a few cell phone habits that annoy me.  Probably annoy some of ya’ll too.  That’s what I want to talk about that today.

  • Talking on speaker phone — We all don’t want to hear your entire conversation.  Truth be told, don’t even want to hear your side of the conversation.
  • Video chatting — Again we don’t want to hear your conversation, let alone see ya’ll when you are video chatting.  The only exception is if you’re trying to show them something, but that should be brief.
  • Listening to music/videos without head phones or ear buds —  You never know who you may be offending with your music.  Better yet, you maybe distracting someone.  Or still, it just outright annoying.  Have headphones or earbuds.
  • Don’t call me and talk about nothing —  I already don’t talk much on the phone as it is.  So don’t call me and don’t have anything to say.  I don’t want to hear your breathing.  Just send a quick text and we’ll be okay.
  • “Why didn’t you answer my call and/or message?” — Simple, I was busy.  That’s what text messaging was invited for and that’s what voicemail was invited for.  All so we can get back with you once we get free.  Please remember, just because you have time to chat right now, doesn’t mean that I have the time.
  • When you’re out with friends or out having dinner, give your device a break — There’s nothing more annoying than trying to have a conversation with someone who spends all their time on their phone.
  • You’re playing a game on your phone and you just suddenly break out in a fit of rage — We don’t care about your game playing.  Chances are we won’t be helping you pass whatever level you’re on.  Plus, it’s ONLY a game.  That game shouldn’t impact your life that much let alone others too.
  • Not knowing how to properly use group messaging — If you don’t know how to properly use group messaging, then don’t use it.  In this day and time, please refrain from sending group messages on holidays, especially those that you don’t even talk to.
  • Restroom selfies — That irritates me because I’m trying to use the restroom, wash my hands and get out, while you are all in the way having a loud obnoxious conversation.

What are some cell phone habits that annoy you?


I’m grateful for so many things each and everyday. I make it a point to be thankful for at least a minimum of three things each and every day. No matter how rough and crazy a day I may have had, there has to be something to be thankful and grateful for.

This month I’m especially grateful for the time I got to spend with my niece and nephew.  They make any day all worth it.  It seems that when I’m at my worst, they do something surprising and makes it all better.

I’m grateful for my mom.  She’s always there to offer her support.  It doesn’t matter if it’s a listening ear or a visit or a few words of wisdom.  For all of that, I’ll always be eternally thankful for.

I’m so thankful the weather wasn’t as hot as it was last summer.  I don’t do heat all that well.  So cooler is most definitely better for me.  Give me fall and winter anytime over summer.  Sometimes here in the south fall isn’t much better than summer.  However, winter in most situations are the best.

I’m grateful for my business coach.  I was in a bit of a funk and just a brief conversation with her bought me back with a much clearer head and more focused and ready to go now.  There’s nothing like having someone who can just listen and ask a few questions to get you back on the right track.  She really is awesome!!!!

Those are a few things that I’m grateful for.  Of course there are so many more, but those are a few that make the list quite often.  So tell me, what are you grateful for?  Please feel free to share.