50 Things Every Young Lady Should Know… Week 8

WEEK 8

“MAKING AN APOLOGY”

YOU DO:

Say “I’m sorry” without adding a “but”.

YOU DON’T:

Say, “I’m sorry I knocked into the table and broke your favorite piece of pottery, but you should have put it on a higher shelf if you liked it so much.”  You day say, “I’m sorry I didn’t include you with the others, but I was in a hurry.”  You don’t say, “I’m sorry I forgot to let the dog out, but I wanted to watch the end of the show and he should have let me know he needed to go out.”

WHY:

Adding an excuse to what you did or didn’t do means you are not taking responsibility for your actions, and that makes your apology pretty worthless.

YOU DO:

Say I’m sorry and_____” if you need to say more than “I’m Sorry” to make the situation right.  “I’m sorry I was careless and broke the bowl.  Can I help buy a new one?”

YOU DON’T:

Assume that “I’m sorry” is always enough to make amends.
WHY:

Because sometimes you need to back your words up with action.

  • A lady doesn’t delay her apology hoping the situation will just go away.  It won’t, and the sooner you say “I’m sorry,” the sooner everyone feels better.
  • A lady doesn’t expect to be rewarded for saying “I’m Sorry” but is grateful when her apology is graciously accepted.
  • A lady doesn’t assume an apology is the end of the situation, but she understands it’s the first step toward making things right.
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50 Things Every Young Lady Should Know… Week 7

WEEK 7

“ACCEPTING A COMPLIMENT”

YOU DO:

Say “thank you” when your friend tells you how cute your hair looks in a ponytail.

YOU DON’T:

Say, “That’s because I haven’t washed it in four days!”

WHY:

No needs to know your personal hygiene habits, and the appropriate response is “thank you.”

YOU DO:

Say “Thank you” when your teacher tells you proud she is of your effort on your personal essay.

YOU DON’T:

Say, “Really?  I wrote it on the bus on the way to school this morning.”

WHY:

Even if you did get away with such little effort on that assignment, do you really want to make your teacher feel foolish?  The appropriate response is “thank you.”

YOU DO:

Say “thank you” when your mother’s friend tell you how much she likes your charcoal sketch in the school art show.

YOU DON’T:

Say, “That Piece?  It’s not very good.”

WHY:

When someone compliments your accomplishments, it is rude to suggest that they have no idea what they’re talking about.  Even if in your heart you believe you could have done better, the appropriate response is “thank you.”

 

  • A lady knows that accepting a compliment graciously is as important as giving a compliment sincerely, and she endeavors to do both.

50 Things Every Young Lady Should Know…Week 5

WEEK 5…..

MAKING INTRODUCTIONS

YOU DO:

Include something personal about a friend you are introducing to your parents like “Mom this is Tiffany. She moved here from Germany last year.”

YOU DON’T:

Just say “Mom, this is Tiffany.”

Why:

Because knowing a little something about your friend gives your parents an opening to get to know your friend a little better, which is reassuring for parents.

YOU DO:

Introduce a newcomer to a group of people she/he doesn’t know, even if you don’t know everyone’s name in the group. You can simply say, “Everyone this is Carrie. We went to elementary school together.

YOU DON’T:

Say hello to the newcomer, then resume your conversation with your other friends.

Why:

Not being introduced makes a person feel invisible and unimportant, and no one wants to make anyone feel that way.

  • A lady always introduces the younger person to the older person. “Grandma, this is Elizabeth.” Not, “Elizabeth, this is my grandmother.”
  • A lady can introduce herself to someone by saying her own name first. “Hello I’m Jana Jones.” Ideally, the other person will reply, “Hello, I’m Hannah Rogers.”

Total Knee Replacement…Final Chapter

Well, here I am, in my final chapter of my Total Knee Replacement. Well not final, final chapter. As I stated before, it takes a solid year to completely heal from this. As it stands, I returned to December fourth. Was I ready? Physically, yes I think so. My doctor thinks so. Mentally, don’t think I was.

On my last visit he tested my leg by bending it, stretching it straight out and the strength by having me do a squat and a one legged squat. Yes, that one legged squat hurt. I was a touch stiff as it was early in the morning and hadn’t completed my exercises that morning yet. He did tell me to to focus on those squats and lunges for strengthening my quads. So for the past month and half that’s what I’ve been working on. I’ve increased my steps. I haven’t done much walking due to the weather here. However, I’ve done some light workout inside on the Wii and Xbox.

The one thing I am still having slight issues with is my energy level. When I first went back to work I got winded after 15 minutes of a light workout. Needless to say, going back to work was tough. It’s great that I have some great co-workers and an understanding supervisor.

After a month and half of being back at work I’ve noticed my energy level is doing better. Some days I struggle, but overall, it’s better. I have almost no pain when I’m working and moving. I have some pain sometimes at night. I’m still working on strengthening my quads everyday. My knee only buckles when I’m extremely tired.

Overall I’m satisfied with the results. I don’t struggle through pain just to make through the day with tons of pain medicine. Do I recommend getting the surgery? If it is needed and there are not any other options, then, yes, I do recommend having the surgery.

Thank you for following me through this journey.

Book Review

“Becoming” by Michelle Obama

I don’t typically read autobiographies. However, I love hearing and watching her speak. This book was in my reading list a few months ago when we were working on our book club reading list. I knew then that I would be buying this book.

While the book was a touch longer than most books I read, I was excited to get started. I downloaded the audible version so I can listen while cleaning, driving and working out. It’s a bonus that Michelle Obama read her own book.

The book stated off with her at a young age. It’s an age where I’m surprised she remembered with such detail. She told a lot about her life as she grew up. She discussed her high school years, her college years and her post college years. She shared her feelings in great detail.

As the book moved from “Becoming Me” to “Becoming Us”, she laid the ground work for her meeting Barrack Obama. Again she spoke in great detail about how she felt about him and their relationship. She described how they moved from him being in the senate, to running for congress to running for President. I don’t really know what it was specifically bout Chapter 17, but that chapter warmed my heart and almost bought me to tears.

She followed “Becoming Us” up with “Becoming More”. This section focused on the remaining time she spent as First Lady and moving out of the White House. I loved the way she told the story of her life. It made me laugh, cry and cringe. I couldn’t get upset, because she handled it with stride. It was very encouraging to see where she came from and where she ended up. I love how she is confident enough to share her feelings of love and hatred.

I enjoyed this book thoroughly. I really enjoyed listening to he audible version. It allowed you to hear from Michelle Obama herself. Overall, a great read!

Overall Rating: 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟

Wrapping Up 2018

Well here we are, in the final weeks of 2018.  I hope you all have had an excellent year.  I’m looking forward to see how you all end the year with a bang.  It seems as if 2018 has flew by.  I originally thought the year was moving very slow until I looked up and saw that it was already October, then N2vember and now December.  Would you agree?

I took a moment to look at my vision board for this year and was pretty satisfied at what I accomplished this year, even with my setbacks.  Before I looked at my board, I sat back and thought about what I’ve done this year, and initially, I didn’t think I had completed much.  When I did look at my board, I saw just how much on my board I did accomplish.  Normally I hang my vision board up so I can see it daily, but this year, I never did hang it up.  Still, I made sure I had a visual on my phone and other devices.

For many of you, this is your extra busy season.  Business increases across the board just about.  For some, it’s your chance to relax.  If you’re not an entrepreneur then you’re probably busy on the other end, shopping, preparing for family and friends.  Whatever you’re doing the rest of the year, end it with bang.  Enjoy it to the fullest.

How will you be wrapping up the year and starting the new year for you and your business?  Are you running specials or just boosting a special product or service?  Have you already created your plans for 2019?  For me, I’ve written my plans, looked over them, and made changes already.  I even have my 2019 hashtags.  They are #AlwaysFindAWay and #FollowYourBliss.  I’m not sure where I heard that at, but it hit a cord with me.  From the time I heard it, it stuck with me.  I made sure I immediately stored it in my notes as a reminder.

Some of the general broad things I plan to do:

  • Increase my photography business
  • Finish medical transcription class
  • Travel More
  • Do more creative projects
  • Read More
  • Network More
  • Build my team
  • More in person Friend and/or Business Dates
  • Cater to myself more
  • #AlwaysFindAWay
  • #FollowYourBliss

Fall TV

Fall is here. Most of the fall TV shows have already premiered. There are some that premiere late. Today I’ll share with you which shows I’m watching and which ones I’ve dropped. I’ll also share the ones I’ve tried.

WATCHING:

  • Criminal Minds – They are doing a good job even without some of the main characters we grew to love. I’m loving the newer cast too.
  • NCIS – I’m missing Abby and Reeves, but it’s still a good show.
  • NCIS LA – Still loving this show as well.
  • Football – what is there to say.
  • New Amsterdam – I’m loving this new show. I’m sure they’ll bring some romance in it, hopefully it won’t have all sex and drama.

SOON TO START:

  • Flash – I enjoyed the premiere I just watched. However, I hope Flash doesn’t become so needy. We will see.
  • Supergirl – I’m on the fence about this season. I don’t care her, I just like the rest of the cast.
  • Legends of Tomorrow – I like the cast connections and their disorganization at times.
  • Arrow – I prob will only watch it because of the crossovers.

DROPPED:

  • NCIS New Orleans – Just no. I barely finished the season last year. Just not working for me.
  • MacGyver – I don’t really know why, but I was just bored trying to watch it this season.

TRIED:

  • 911 – While this was good, it’s way too emotional. These 911 situations bring tears to my eyes. I just can’t.
  • FBI – I couldn’t event get past the premiere.
  • Hawaii Five-O – I’m actually playing catchup and it’s kind of annoying. I get that McGarrett is the main character, but why does he have to be so selfish???

Waiting To Exhale

I’ve been wanting, or rather waiting to exhale for a minute.  I didn’t know the best way to do it.  Don’t worry, I don’t plan to be vicious.  I also won’t be calling out names, that’s never nice.  If you feel guilty, that’s probably means you are guilty.  I’m just saying.

So, some of you know I had total knee replacement surgery on September 4th.  Most of the people around me knew about that about a month before.  Trust me, I was counting down the days.  I was in so much pain, I was so ready for it.  So, what I don’t understand is people who act all surprised.  I don’t want a pity party, you don’t have to call, text or visit.  All that don’t bother me, it just shows me who’s real in my friends are and who’s not.

If you don’t text, call or visit, don’t act all concerned when you see me or see something I post because all of sudden you realize you haven’t seen me in a while. One thing I can’t stand is fake concern or caring.  No, I don’t expect or need my phone blowing up as I’m recovering (even tho it already is), however if you truly cared, I would have heard from you at some point.  I don’t need nor want fake friends or acquaintances in my circle.  I need true friends and business networking partners.  Even though I’m recovering I’m still reaching to those that are shut in.  Maybe I can’t drive just yet, but they know I care because I reach out to them, I ask questions to find out how they really are doing, because I really do.

My advice to everyone, if you have a friend, co-worker, or team member that will be down for a bit, don’t wait for them to contact you.  Show some genuine care and concern.  Reach out to them. Some of them may not have the care I have.  They  may actually need something or some help.   I know we all lead busy lives, but taking a few minutes so show you care (and not hindsight caring either).

I’ve just felt the need to share that. The need to exhale has been sitting with me for a few days.  Needed to have that exhale.

Expressing My Creativity

There’s one thing that I’ve learned about myself over the years.  Whats that?  That if I don’t allow myself to let creativity flow then I get very grumpy.  I won’t say depressed, but I do notice a change in myself.  For me, I have many outlets for my creative juices.

Here are a few ways  I express my creativity:

  • Photography – This always make the list.  There are so many ways to be creative with photography.  It’s fun to learn new techniques and work with different people.  Being an introvert it helps me to connect with people when I take their photos.  (Now who’s ready for a photo shoot?  Let’s be creative!)
  • Writing – I’ve been writing since 1996.  My writing partner/husband got me started with poetry.  Now I do poetry, very short stories (much to the dismay of my book club!), and blogs (such as this one).  All of these allow me to say the things I may not always say in person.  It also allows me to have fun while being very creative.
  • Crafts – This is very broad, as this list by it self can get really long!!! I love many forms of crafting.  I’ve tried some that I absolutely love.  Others, not so much, but would try it again.  Then there are others I won’t ever do again!
  • Baking – It’s been a while, but I do enjoy baking a sweet dish.  90% of the time I try to make them from scratch.

How do you express your creativity?