There are moments when you just want to be alone and unbothered. It’s those moments in life when you just need your space, peace, and quiet. Yes, I’m an introvert, but that’s not what I’m talking about here.
Being an introvert you just prefer to be alone or with a limited group of people on a regular basis. This is the normal for an introvert. What I’m talking about today is when you need to refresh. You could have many reasons to need to refresh. Or maybe you just need to be able to refill your cup.
I know I’ve been mentioning my recent surgery a lot, but it’s not to gain sympathy. It’s just that some things have changed. While I’m recovering, I’m also rediscovering some things about myself.
So, recently, since this last surgery, I find that I really do more time alone, or me time. So everyday, no matter what is going on, I try take at least 30 minutes or so with just quiet time. Sometimes it’ll be in prayer. Other times it be random thoughts of non serious things.
I like to remind myself and others, there is nothing wrong with sitting still and having your time. It helps keep depression away and helps you from being overwhelmed and anxious. I have this bad habit about being anxious, and that’s something I work on daily. I don’t know when it started, but I’m thinking it got worse after my first knee replacement in 2018.
I find that when you need your space, your quiet time, find a way to take it. It may mean giving something up, but that’s okay. When it comes to you and your mental health, you deserve it.
What do you do when you need to regroup?
I was recently reminded that I haven’t shared my “Why” in a while. While I wear many hats and titles, today is about why I decided to sell paparazzi jewelry.
I’ve now been selling these awesome $5 accessories for a year. My original why was to just add an additional stream of income. While I’ve been doing that, my reason for doing this has altered a bit.
Yes I still like the additional stream of income. It’s helped me out in many ways financially. However, I begin to see more. See a bigger picture. Now I want to leave a legacy for my niece and nephew. I also realized that with inexpensive and gorgeous accessories I’m able to help women boost their self confidence and to help the beauty that’s on the inside shine bright on the outside as well. To see them smile in excitement, or lift their heads a bit higher makes it all worth it.
That’s my why. I’ve included the link to my video on Facebook live to check out as well.
My Why Video
“Crisis On Infinite Earth”
I hope you’ve seen all five episodes of this crossover! If not, STOP 🚨🚫✋🏾!!!!!!
There’s nothing like sitting down and watching a good movie with some popcorn. Yes, that’s what this was like, watching a movie.
There were a lot of cameos in all five episodes. There were also a lot of Easter eggs thrown in. Some I caught, others I didn’t. This crossover kept you on your toes from the beginning. We have Oliver dying at the end of Supergirl, then dying again later! Man, to see someone die twice while being a hero is though.
Many surprises rang out throughout the five hour crossover. Some we were glad to see, like the Flash from the movies! That made my night there! Other surprises we could have done without, although vital, like Lex Luther. Then all the changes he made to his benefit. Of course, I personally felt some appearances didn’t really add to the crossover. My number one would be Mia, Oliver’s daughter. Sure didn’t do much but run off at the mouth, which took away from some of the scenes she was in. Yes, I know it was grief probably talking.
There were so many things to like, a few to dislike. One thing I hated was that it seemed like they had extra commercials, especially the last two hours. Maybe they should have did minimal commercials throughout.
Overall it was a great crossover. I enjoyed watching it. I’m looking forward to seeing more from Black Lighting and seeing an appearance from Star Girl.
OVERALL RATING: ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
I find that it’s very important to know what your strengths and your weaknesses are. By knowing this you will know what steps you need to take. It can help you in your personal and professional life.
Here are some of my weaknesses:
- Procrastination – This is probably one of my biggest issues. I’ll find every reason to procrastinate.
- Quick temper – Even though I still have a quick temper, I find that I have improved. I pray on this everyday.
- Consistency – Sometimes my consistency is just as bad as my procrastination. My business coach helps a lot with this, so it’s getting better. Slowly, but surely.
Here are a few strengths:
- Good listener – Being in a supervisor position for most of my working career has taught me to listen pretty good. Not just hear you, but, actually listen.
- Problem Solving – Never would have thought I would be good at that, but over the years I realized I was really good at it. I have to thank retail for that.
- Teaching – When I was younger, I thought I was going to be a teacher. As I entered the work force I then understood that there were other ways to teach. I’ve embraced those ways to help others.
Those are just a few of my weaknesses and strengths. Of course I have more, but I just wanted to share a free today.
Four years ago I was still healing from the loss of my father. I was braver than I thought I could be. I performed at the Compound. The Compound have spoken word or poetry night almost every month.
I’ve always been an avid supporter of the Compound. I love going and listening to all the great poets. I would leave each time being more motivated and humbled. It never mattered what the topic was, I was enchanted and inspired.
If you have never been, you’re missing out. I wanted to get up each time, but was too scared, too nervous. I mean, these are professional spoken word artist who have been perfecting their craft for years! Here I was, couldn’t even memorize one poem and they where spitting out two and three a night. That made me content enough to enjoy watching and hearing them.
I agreed to perform before my dad passed. Who would have thought I would still have the courage to do it? What gave me the courage? My dad gave me the courage. I realized during this time that tomorrow is never promised.
With the loving support of my friends and the Compound family, I pushed through. They were surprised as much as I was that I would still do it. When I tell you I was shaking in my boots (literally), I was so afraid! I’m thankful for everyone that pushed me forward. Sometimes we just have to step out and do it. This was a great healing experience for me.
I’ve been on medical leave since mid November. Because of my surgery I was dependent on a lot of things. I’m thankful for everything everyone gave me during my hardest first three weeks.
The most important thing is everyone’s time. Time to me is very valuable. My mom, sisters and even my niece and nephew spent time catering to my needs. Then I have the friends and family that took time out of their schedules to visit me. That warmed my heart each time.
Even though their time was the most precious gift for me to be thankful for, there are other things as well. I’m thankful for the food that was bought and/or cooked. That was great since I couldn’t stand that long to do it myself. I’m also thankful for the money and gifts I received as well. Everything was so thoughtful, it is still appreciated.
Being homebound and unable to do the simple things reminds you to be thankful each and every day.
Today I want to share 10 of my favorite things that I enjoy in life. My first list of the year.Movies – I love watching movies. Mostly action movies.Gummy Bears – Don’t judge me! I’ve cut back, but I try to keep at least one pack in the house. Football – I’ve loved football since I was in Germany. Think I was in middle school when I started watching, but fell in love with it later in high school.Dance videos – No, I’m not a dancer, but I enjoy watching those that do. It gives me life. I might attempt the easier routines or try the ones made for exercise. (I.e. Zumba is one example)Site Seeing – It doesn’t matter where I go, I can almost find something to go see. I will even tour my own city like a tourist. You’ll be amazed at what you find. Try it!Writing – I don’t write as much, but I’m getting back to my love. Poetry is one of top things to write followed by blogging. Spoken Word – A good show is always good for the mind and body. It’s always a joy just to listen to all that raw talent.Reading – This is another thing I’m trying to build back up. A good book can be read in a day or two. Jewelry – I’ve always loved picking up a cute accessory, especially earrings and rings. Now that I see it, I’m falling in love with a lot more styles and colors. Let me go place an order! 😁Photography – I’ve been in love with taking pictures since middle school. Yep, Germany again. How can you not like taking pictures in such a pretty country.
There’s my random list of 10 Favorite Things!
I’ve reached my two month post op. I saw my doctor this week. I was pretty pleased with the visit. It was a short visit too. That made it even better.
I did address two issues, the pain in the back of my knee and still not sleeping through the night. I did get a few good nights, then it was back to about two hours. Y’all, when he pressed on my knee where it hurt, I almost jumped out the chair!!! I wanted to scream so bad. I didn’t though. He did give me some exercises to do and some steroids. I had to see my doctor about the sleeping issue. That was my plan anyway.
I do feel that I’m getting stronger. It was easier to get in my jeep. It was also easier going down the steps at my apartment today. So both of those are plusses. I was supposed to be done with PT, but he sent in a few more weeks because I was concerned about my strength with the stairs.
When I visited my general doctor the following day about my shoulder pain, he gave me something for sleep. Yea, it’s not working. I may have too many meds in my system too. Time to flush my system a little. When he looked at my shoulder he said I have a strained rotator cuff. Yep, more PT. I’m assuming it came from me pushing up with that arm during the healing process.
I have about another month to build my energy level back up before going back to work. So I’ll start a walking program. Overall pretty good progress.
Where are you in your healing progress?
It’s been four years since my dad passed. I’m thankful for the strength I gained and learned from my dad and during the years since he passed.
My dad was the type of man that always made sure home was taken care of. We always had the things we needed and most of the things we wanted. Even as we grew into adults, he still made sure we didn’t want for anything. I’m thankful for that lesson he taught us. That’s a standard that’s always been high with my sisters and I. Dad showed us what a man of the house was supposed to do. Yes, my mom worked after we were in school, but my dad still made sure she was taken care of, even after they separated.
Even though we didn’t always get along, we created some great memories over the years. It’s those memories that I’m able to carry with me today. I’ll always be eternally grateful for those memories we were able to create from childhood on. Even as I write this I’m remembering some things that always make me smile.
Yes I’m sad that my dad is gone. There’s nothing that can change that. However, I can smile because I know he’s not hurting anymore. I also know that he gave us what he could to ensure we could celebrate him. He gave us memories to carry with us each and every day. He gave us memories to help us smile when we think of him. For that I must express my gratitude.
Daddy I thank you for everything you did for us.