“TALKING AND LISTENING TO OTHERS”
*****The book actually has ‘adults’ instead of ‘others’. However, I believe it fits for EVERYONE!
Stop texting on your phone, typing on the computer, or watching television when others want to speak with you.
Make a show of being irritated at the interruption, or act as if you are impatient to get back to what you were doing.
There are distractions all around us, but the one in front of you (parent, sibling, teacher…etc) should not have to vie with a friend you saw an hour ago at school or with reruns of “Gilmore Girls” for 5 minutes of your time. It is hurtful to feel that you are not worthy of someone’s undivided attention.
Politely ask them if their question can wait two more minutes for the outcome of the tie-breaking tennis match, or until you finish your train of though on the paper you’re writing.
Put your hand up in front of them face, or wave them away like an annoying fly.
Either of those things is guaranteed to provoke an angry response, which will not get you the minutes you’ve requested.
Initiate conversations with others in your life.
Spend all your time “conversing” on the computer with friends and strangers or secluded in your bedroom.
As you’re getting older, so are your parents, grandparents and others in your life, and it’s important to make the most of the time we have with the people we love.
- A lady makes eye contact and is engaged with the person she is conversing with.
- A lady knows that asking people questions about themselves is the surest way to be considered a good conversationalist.
- A lady keeps up with current events and popular culture, at least enough to learn the art of small talk.