Ask permission to use your mom’s laptop, borrow your friend’s French-English dictionary, ride your bike to the ballpark, or stay out past your curfew.
Assume it’s okay to do any of those things because you’re not 9 years old anymore, or because you’ve done them before.
Each time you use something that belongs to someone else or do something out of the ordinary, you ask permission.
Offer an explanation of why you need to use your mom’s laptop or stay out past your curfew.
Ask for permission without being prepared for a follow-up question and response.
Your mom might need to use her laptop herself, but if you tell her there’s a program you need on the laptop for a paper you’re writing and you promise to give it back in one hour, she’ll probably say yes.
Accept no as a final answer when it’s clear that’s what the answer is going to be.
Whine, cry, stomp your foot, and accuse your parents or friends of always saying no, being totally unfair and hating you.
Accepting no for an answer with maturity will impress your parents so much that they are far more likely to say yes the next time. If you sense yourself getting upset, you might want to go to your room, or outside to cool down. If it helps, you can yell into your pillow.
- A lady never uses or borrows something that belongs to someone else without asking permission. No exceptions.
- A lady doesn’t change the radio station in the car some one else is driving without asking permission.
- A lady doesn’t stay out past curfew or go to a different place than she told her parents she was going without asking permission first.