Yes, what about your friends? Loaded question right? I know it is, but it’s a topic that’s always worth discussing. I truly believe many people don’t know what being a friend is really about and how to be one.
So what is the definition of “friend”?
a person whom one knows and with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically exclusive of sexual or family relations.
synonyms: companion, soul mate, intimate, confidante, confidant, familiar, alter ego, second self, playmate, playfellow, classmate, schoolmate, workmate
I promise I won’t call any names unless it’s positive. LOL So let’s talk about this.
Who do you call a friend? Why do you consider them a friend? Why do you consider yourself a friend?
When I look at who my friends are, it’s not many. It’s a very small, closed, and tight group of like minded individuals. We disagree, have own lives but communicate regularly and freely. We support each other in our endeavors. When it comes to my real friends, I absolutely never have to question their loyalty.
It’s hilarious how some think they fall in that category, when in reality they fall in the category of associate. Oh, what’s an associate? Someone who you don’t really talk to. The communication is slim. As a matter of fact it’s one step from being a fake friend. Well, what’s a fake friend? Great question. Many of you fall in this category. You only communicate when you want something. When it’s convenient for you, when it benefits you. Or even worse, when you can be nosey.
I tend to treat my friends using the golden rule. If you’re my friend, I’m down with you at 100%. I support your and your goals. May not always be able to pay for it, but I support you always. My BFF lives in Utah. We don’t talk everyday, don’t text everyday. Still I know she has my back unconditionally with no questions asked. Then you have my local girls, the original crew from “1284”. Those ladies hold me down all the time. We are all so very different and yet our bond of friendship is real. We don’t just blatantly ignore each other. We maybe busy, but we still make time to respond, to reach out, to not cause each other to worry unnecessarily.
I’m at the point in my life where I let your actions speak for you. I will not beg or plead for you to be my friend. I refuse. If you act like I’m bothering you, guess what, you won’t be bothered with me ever again. I have a group of friends that uplift each other to reach new heights in their lives. We can give constructive criticism without being in our feelings. We can be mad, argue, then agree to disagree and have a drink. LOL Why can we do that? It’s actually very simple, we accept each other for who they are, flaws and all.
I vowed that in 2016, there will be more friend dates. I love texting and social media like the next person. However, I understand that true, lasting friendship has to be grown and nourished. That has to have some live interactions.
So I bring the question back around, what is a friend? Are you being the friend you want others to be to you?