‘A WOMAN’S WORTH’
When I look at social media I see so many women not complaining about not finding the perfect mate, or about shady friends. I see it so often. When you look a bit deeper, you the reason some of them may not have the perfect mate or why they always have drama in their life. What it all boils down to is one thing, they don’t know their worth.
Many people tend to settle for whatever comes along because they think they can’t do any better. Why am I going to settle for someone who talks down on me day in and day out? Or why am I going to stoop to someone’s level because of their insecurity?
When I look back on my life. I like to evaluate myself from time to time to ensure I’m still headed in the right direction. I completely understand that growing up and entering our teen years and young adult years can be very confusing sometimes. We don’t really know what we want or need at those ages most of the time. That is okay because we are still learning and growing into our adulthood. However, once we reach a certain age you should be settling down into who you are.
Looking back I saw those moments when I settled for less. That never ended well. As I got older, I realized who I was. I mean who I truly am. I looked deep down inside and read into the matters of the heart. Now, I’m at a point where I know what I’m worth. I’m not going to settle for something I don’t want. It could be something like a smoker or an abuser. Either way, neither is what will make me happy, will compliment who I am.
Many women don’t know what they are worth. Don’t know where their standards are. Someone once told me my standards were too high. I was stunned! My mouth was hung open for a few minutes. My standards were too high? I just know what makes me happy and comfortable. I have no issues with making compromises where it is with something I can compromise on. For example, I will not compromise on the smoking issue. I can compromise on the height. See, two different things. I know who I am, I know what I want. I know where I’m headed. The question is do you know? Or are you just floating by? As cliché as this may sound, you have to be able to be happy alone with yourself before you can make someone else happy.
There’s nothing wrong with being cute and sexy. But let me ask you, Is your worth based on your boobs or butt? When I look at your page is all your pictures boob shots or butt shots? If so, why ask the question why is it that guys don’t admire the brain? You are not giving them a reason. You are showing them that all you are worth is your body. There was an article that was floating around Facebook about a preacher in Nigeria that had single women looking for a husband strip down on a beach and he had to kiss their butts if they were to find a husband. And they did it!!!!! I don’t know how accurate the article is, but I hope not at all. I wasn’t even mad at the ‘preacher’ but the women. Do you value yourself so little that you allow people to tell you anything and you do it, you just fall in line? This is something I see everyday. I might be something like making you carry the baby, all the grocery bags and the new Xmas bike while he walks ahead of you empty-handed. I’ve seen it so many times, especially working in retail and across social media.
Women, it’s time you to stand up for who you are. Others will treat you however you allow them to treat you. If you allow certain behaviors they will continue exhibit those behaviors. Someone once stated that if you were seeing some one and they were always late for your date, when they are late you become no longer available. Eventually one of two things will happen, they will start coming on time if they truly care about you. If they don’t care about you they will continue to be late. My question then will be, will you continue to allow it or let it go? It’s all about your standards and your worth.
Know what you are worth. Don’t settle for anything less. Keep your head up and moving forward.