100 SIMPLE SECRETS OF HAPPY PEOPLE….WEEK 5

100 SIMPLE SECRETS OF HAPPY PEOPLE….WEEK 5

“Choose Your Comparisons Wisely”

Many of our feels of satisfaction or dissatisfaction have their roots in how we compare ourselves to others.  When we compare ourselves to those who have more, we feel bad. When we compare ourselves to those who have less, we feel grateful.  Even though the truth is we have exactly the same life either way, our feelings about our life can vary tremendously based on who we compare ourselves with.  Compare yourself with those examples that are meaningful but that make you feel comfortable with who you are and what you have.

A large group of students was given a word puzzle to solve.  Researches compared the satisfaction of students who finished the puzzle quickly of more slowly.  Students who finished the puzzle quickly and compared themselves with the very fastest students came away feeling dissatisfied with themselves.  Students who finished the puzzle more slowly but compared themselves with the slowest students came away feeling quite satisfied with themselves and tended to ignore the presence of the quick-finishing students.  (Lyubomirsky and Ross 1997)

****100 Simple Secrets of Happy People by David Niven

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