USE A STRATEGY FOR HAPPINESS
We assume that happy and unhappy people are born that way. But both kinds of people do things that create and reinforce their moods. Happy people let themselves be happy. Unhappy people continue doing things that upset them.
What is the first sign of a healthy business? A healthy business plan. That is the argument of the Strategic Management Center, a business consulting firm. They believe every business must define its purpose and create a strategy to accomplish that purpose.
That same approach can be used by people. Define what you want, then use a strategy to get it. Living a happy life as an adult is like like trying to get that ice cream cone as a child. You need to know what you want and use a strategy to get it. Think about what makes you happy and what makes you sad, and use this to help you get what you want.
Happy people do not experience one success after another and unhappy people, one failure after another. Instead, surveys show that happy and unhappy people tend to have had very similar life experiences. The difference is that the average unhappy person spends more than twice as much time thinking about the unpleasant events in their lives, while happy people tend to seek and rely upon information that brightens their personal outlook. (Lyumbomirsky 1994)
****100 Simple Secrets of Happy People by David Niven